We dream about the future to maximize the outcome of the present moment.
It really does matter what we think. Was it Buddha who said, "We are what we think?" Children have attitudinal radar. If you're angry, frustrated or annoyed...busy, harried or hectic they will want to move away from you, even if you have impeccable techniques. Have you ever talked to someone who is not listening? Maybe they are reading something or doing something online while you are trying to talk to them? You know that experience well, I'll bet. Kids have the same feelings, they know when you are not feeling loving. Kids with autism have heightened attitudinal radar-it's a bit like a blind person who has a keener sense of hearing. You can't fake it because they just know. This is certainly true of our Peanut. Long before I ever attended Start-Up I would say "It's all about energy with her!" Danniah has this uncanny ability to sense the very core of someone and she can do it in less than 15 seconds. If you are thinking about the 16 things that you need to do, or if you are frustrated or angry when you are next to Peanut, she is guaranteed to tell you a firm, "Goodbye!!" while waving. She is also very likely to become grumpy herself to boot. On the other hand, if you are present in the moment and you are loving, calm, open, playful, animated or silly--any one of those things-- she will be your new best friend. As Bear's says, "Attitude! Attitude! Attitude!
When children are motivated they have incredible capability.
Now you can see more of why we are so excited about this program. It's fun, it's loving, it's respectful, it feels good and it works. We can't wait to see what happens next! How about you?
There is no such thing as false hope.
PS--Thanks to my good TMR buddy Saint, I've added an email subscription link on the right of the blog. We'd love to have you come along for the adventure of a lifetime!